The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast
Being a youth pastor’s wife is tough, isn’t it? You’re trying to balance ministry and family. You’re feeling the pressure to be perfect. You’re dealing with teenagers all the time. You’re trying to lead a small group. You’re struggling to find time to rest. You’re feeling overwhelmed, overlooked, and over-committed. Like I said, it’s a tough job. And on top of that, it can also feel lonely because being a youth pastor’s wife has a unique set of challenges compared to what other ministry wives might face. In this podcast, you will learn how to navigate those challenges that come with being a youth pastor’s wife and find the strength to keep showing up in your ministry and in your marriage. My goal is to help you find balance and fulfillment by giving you practical tools to invest in students, support your husband, and grow spiritually. If you’re ready to step into this incredible calling God has placed on your life, then this podcast is for you! Hey friend, I’m Kristen. I am a follower of Jesus, and of course, a youth pastor’s wife. I have learned firsthand that yes, serving students with your husband is super fun, but it can also be really challenging. Ministry is messy. Marriage has its ups and downs. And the expectations for a pastor’s wife aren’t exactly underwhelming. But I’m learning how to fully embrace this role God has given me as the youth pastor’s wife by discipling our students well, loving and supporting my husband in his role, and living by God’s standard for me rather than trying to be the “perfect pastor’s wife.” And I want to share all that I am learning with you so we can walk this journey together! That’s why I created this podcast! So if you want to learn how to live out your calling as you serve in student ministry, invest in your husband and your marriage, and say goodbye to people-pleasing and perfectionism, you’re in the right place! Welcome to The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast!
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7 days ago
7 days ago
Ever feel like your house is one rogue sock away from total chaos? Same. Ministry weeks can feel like a full-time job on top of your actual full-time job… and somehow the laundry still wants to be washed and the people still want to eat.
In this quick, real-life episode, I’m sharing 7 simple habits that help me keep my home from totally unraveling when ministry life gets full (which, let’s be honest, is always). No matching throw pillows or color-coded chore charts required — just practical rhythms, grace for the undone, and a reminder that your house doesn’t have to be spotless to be peaceful.
If you’re craving a little more order and a little less overwhelm, press play. And maybe grab a frozen pizza while you’re at it.
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Tuesday Jun 24, 2025
Tuesday Jun 24, 2025
You want godly friends. You want to feel known, supported, and invited in. But if we’re being honest… making friends as an adult (especially in ministry) can feel awkward, frustrating, and just plain hard.
If you’ve ever thought, “I wish someone would invite me to coffee…” or “I’m tired of feeling left out,” this episode is for you.
We’re talking about what it actually looks like to go first — to plant seeds of friendship and community even when it feels risky or uncomfortable. I’ll walk you through simple, real-life ways to start building the kind of friendships you’re longing for — without overthinking it, overextending yourself, or waiting forever for someone else to make the first move.
You don’t have to do anything big or fancy. Just one brave step at a time.
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Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
Between youth group chaos, church events, and that one person who always needs “just five minutes” after service, being married in ministry can start to feel like a never-ending game of tag — and you're always “it.” If you've been craving more connection with your husband but aren’t sure where to start, this episode is for you.
I’m sharing 8 simple, no-pressure habits that have helped Kevin and me stay close in the middle of ministry life. We’re talking morning coffee, check-in walks, shared calendars (marriage magic, y’all), and a few other easy things that don’t require a retreat or a babysitter.
No guilt, no perfection — just practical rhythms you can start this week to feel more connected as a couple.
Let’s strengthen our marriages one small step at a time.
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Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Let’s talk boundaries — the kind that keep you sane when your phone won’t stop buzzing, people keep asking for “just one more thing,” and social media makes you feel like you’re somehow not doing enough.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 boundaries I’m learning to set without feeling guilty (okay… trying not to feel guilty). We’re talking about not answering every phone call like it’s an emergency, learning to say “no” without writing a three-paragraph apology, and refusing to let Instagram convince us that we’re behind in ministry or life.
If you’ve ever felt stretched too thin or like you’re failing just because you’re not doing all the things, this one’s for you.
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Tuesday Jun 03, 2025
Tuesday Jun 03, 2025
Ever had one of those weeks where everything goes wrong right before a big youth event? Or maybe you’ve felt unusually disconnected from your husband, discouraged in your role, or just weighed down by something you can’t explain? Yeah… that might not be “just life.”
In this episode, we’re diving into the very real (but often overlooked) reality of spiritual warfare—what it is, how it shows up in our lives as youth pastors’ wives, and how we can recognize and respond to it with confidence in Christ.
I’m sharing personal stories, practical wisdom, and a whole lot of truth to help you stand strong when the enemy comes knocking. Because yes, you are a target—but you can also equip yourself for the battle.
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Tuesday May 27, 2025
Tuesday May 27, 2025
Have you ever sat in a room full of people and still felt completely alone? Like you’re showing up week after week, supporting your husband, loving on students… but deep down, you feel invisible? Maybe you’ve cried in secret and thought, “I don’t even know who I can talk to about this.”
If that’s you — I’ve been there too. And this episode is for you.
We’re talking about what it feels like to be lonely in ministry and why it’s actually more common than we think. I’m sharing a piece of my story, reminding you of the truth that God sees you (even when no one else seems to), and offering a few simple ways to start moving toward connection again — without putting pressure on yourself to have it all figured out.
This one is real, honest, and hopefully just what your heart needs today. So grab your coffee (or hide in your car for a few minutes — no judgment), and let’s talk.
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Tuesday May 20, 2025
Tuesday May 20, 2025
If you want to lead a small group for students—and you even feel like God’s nudging you to do it—but you have no idea where to start (and honestly, you're a little freaked out), this is the episode for you!
I’m breaking down the exact format I use for our student small groups (yep—copy and paste it if you want to). I’ll walk you through setting group norms, using fun ice breakers that aren’t cringe, leading discussion without feeling like you’re lecturing, and creating space for students to share and pray for one another.
If you’ve been feeling nervous or unsure about leading, this episode is your pep talk and your game plan!
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Tuesday May 13, 2025
Tuesday May 13, 2025
When your husband’s in ministry and his schedule is all over the place (what even is a weekend?), creating a routine can feel...laughable. Late nights, weekend events, last-minute texts that somehow turn into counseling sessions… yeah, it’s a whole thing. So how in the world are you supposed to build a routine when your life feels like a never-ending game of “what day is it again?”
In this episode, we’re chatting about what to do when your life doesn’t look like your 9-to-5 friends—and why that’s totally okay. I’ll share how Kevin and I have learned to make rhythms that actually fit our ministry life (instead of fighting it), plus a few things that have helped me stay sane in the chaos.
If you’ve ever felt like your routine is held together by dry shampoo and prayer—girl, you’re not alone. Let’s figure this out together!
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Tuesday May 06, 2025
Tuesday May 06, 2025
Have you ever walked away from a youth night thinking, “Did that even matter?” Maybe you’ve shown up, served, supported your husband, stayed up late, cleaned up the mess—and still felt like no one noticed. If you’ve ever wondered if any of it is actually making a difference, this episode is for you.
I know what it’s like to feel tired, discouraged, and invisible in ministry. Today, I want to speak some truth over those doubts and remind you that just because you don’t see the impact doesn’t mean there isn’t one. Your faithfulness matters. Your presence matters. And God sees it all.
I hope this episode encourages you and meets you right where you are—because sometimes we just need someone to remind us we’re doing better than we think.
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Tuesday Apr 29, 2025
Tuesday Apr 29, 2025
Let’s be real—youth camp is one of the most powerful, exhausting, overwhelming, and amazing things we get to be part of as youth pastors' wives. But if you’re already feeling stressed just thinking about packing, schedules, and the nonstop chaos, you’re not alone.
The good news? You don’t have to just survive camp—you can actually thrive in it.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing my top 10 practical (and spiritual) tips to help you show up prepared, peaceful, and maybe even slightly less sweaty. We’re talking about everything from setting expectations with your husband before the madness starts, to packing a “mom bag” that could rival a CVS aisle, to sneaking in a few quiet moments with Jesus (yes, it’s possible).
I’ll even tell you why earplugs might just be your new best friend—and why laughing at the chaos is one of the holiest things you can do.
So if you’re ready to feel more peaceful and less panicky about camp, grab your coffee and your snacks and let’s dive in!
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