The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast
Being a youth pastor’s wife is tough, isn’t it? You’re trying to balance ministry and family. You’re feeling the pressure to be perfect. You’re dealing with teenagers all the time. You’re trying to lead a small group. You’re struggling to find time to rest. You’re feeling overwhelmed, overlooked, and over-committed. Like I said, it’s a tough job. And on top of that, it can also feel lonely because being a youth pastor’s wife has a unique set of challenges compared to what other ministry wives might face. In this podcast, you will learn how to navigate those challenges that come with being a youth pastor’s wife and find the strength to keep showing up in your ministry and in your marriage. My goal is to help you find balance and fulfillment by giving you practical tools to invest in students, support your husband, and grow spiritually. If you’re ready to step into this incredible calling God has placed on your life, then this podcast is for you! Hey friend, I’m Kristen. I am a follower of Jesus, and of course, a youth pastor’s wife. I have learned firsthand that yes, serving students with your husband is super fun, but it can also be really challenging. Ministry is messy. Marriage has its ups and downs. And the expectations for a pastor’s wife aren’t exactly underwhelming. But I’m learning how to fully embrace this role God has given me as the youth pastor’s wife by discipling our students well, loving and supporting my husband in his role, and living by God’s standard for me rather than trying to be the “perfect pastor’s wife.” And I want to share all that I am learning with you so we can walk this journey together! That’s why I created this podcast! So if you want to learn how to live out your calling as you serve in student ministry, invest in your husband and your marriage, and say goodbye to people-pleasing and perfectionism, you’re in the right place! Welcome to The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast!
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Have you ever felt stuck watching your husband navigate a tough ministry situation — especially when it involves a difficult lead pastor?
It’s hard to know what to do or say when he’s discouraged or frustrated, and honestly, it can feel pretty overwhelming.
In this episode, we’re having a heart-to-heart about how to support your husband when ministry leadership is challenging. I’ll share some practical ways to encourage him, pray with him, and create space for him to process — without accidentally fueling bitterness. Plus, we’ll talk about finding healthy outlets for stress and knowing when it might be time to seek wise counsel.
If you're walking through this kind of tough ministry season, I see you friend. This episode is just for you!
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Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
If you want to change the way you approach conversations with your students, your husband, your church members, or really anyone in your life, then you're going to LOVE this episode!
Today, I’m sharing a game-changing concept my counselor taught me called 3-way listening. It’s all about listening to the person in front of you, tuning into the Holy Spirit, and responding in a way that helps the other person find clarity and grow in their relationship with Jesus. Trust me — this has been a total shift for me in the way I communicate with our students, our church members, my friends, and even my husband.
If you want to create deeper connections, invite God into your conversations, and stop feeling the pressure to have all the answers… this one’s for you!
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Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
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Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Do you ever feel like your quiet time has to be long, deep, and perfectly structured to “count”? In this episode, we’re letting go of that pressure and embracing the true purpose of spending time with God—connection, not perfection.
I’ll share practical ways to simplify your quiet time, make it sustainable in any season, and remove the guilt that often comes with it. Whether you have 10 minutes or an hour, your time with God matters.
No more overwhelm—just small, consistent moments that deepen your relationship with Jesus. Ready to take the pressure off? Let’s dive in!
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Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
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Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
Ministry never slows down, which means if we’re going to rest, we have to be intentional about it. But how do you prioritize rest when there’s always another student to check in on, another event to plan, or another late-night text to respond to?
In this episode, we’re diving into what it really looks like to rest when ministry feels like it never stops. We’ll talk about setting boundaries, making space for Sabbath, and learning to rest with purpose—without feeling like you’re falling behind.
Rest isn’t just a luxury; it’s essential for your health, marriage, and ministry. So grab your coffee and let’s figure out how to build rest into your life—even when it feels impossible.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Does it feel like you and your husband are just passing each other in the chaos of ministry and everyday life? Between church events, family responsibilities, and everything in between, it’s easy to feel disconnected. But what if a simple 20-minute check-in each week could bring you closer, help you communicate better, and strengthen your marriage?
In this episode, we’re talking about The Weekly Marriage Check-In—a simple but powerful habit that can help you and your husband stay on the same page. I’ll walk you through six easy steps to make it work, from choosing the right time and place to praying together at the end. This check-in has helped Kevin and me navigate the ups and downs of ministry life while keeping our marriage strong, and I pray it does the same for you!
If you’ve been feeling out of sync or just want to be more intentional about connecting with your husband, this episode is for you!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
I had a very different plan for the episode I was going to release today, but I'm switching it up because this is something we need to talk about.
Life is just hard sometimes. Ministry can feel overwhelming, your marriage can feel stretched thin, and on top of it all, you still have regular life things to deal with—health struggles, financial stress, job changes, family issues. If you’re in a season where everything feels heavy, I want you to know: You are not alone.
In this episode, I’m sharing some personal struggles I've been dealing with lately, but more importantly, I’m offering biblical encouragement for when life feels like too much. We’ll talk about how to be honest with God in the hard moments, why remembering His faithfulness changes everything, and some practical steps you can take today to find peace and strength.
If you’re feeling weary, I hope this conversation reminds you that God sees you, He’s with you, and He will carry you through.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Leading a small group is one of the most rewarding things you can do in ministry, but let’s be real—it can also be a little intimidating. Maybe you’re wondering how to get students to actually talk (instead of just staring at you in silence), or you’re trying to figure out how to balance fun with real discipleship. I get it—leading a small group can feel like a lot, but it doesn’t have to be complicated!
In this episode, I’m sharing 8 tips that will help you create a space where students feel safe, seen, and excited to grow in their faith. We’ll talk about things like setting expectations, asking better questions, and what to do when the conversation totally flops. Whether you’re brand new to leading or you’ve been at it for years, these practical tips will help you lead with confidence and actually enjoy the process.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
When your husband is interviewing for a youth pastor position, it can feel like everything is up in the air. You want to be helpful, but you’re not always sure how. Should you help him prepare? How do you encourage him without adding pressure? And what do you do with all the emotions that come with waiting for an answer?
I’ve been there. When my husband was interviewing for a new ministry role a couple of years ago, I wanted to support him well, but I didn’t always know the best way to do that. Looking back, I wish someone had walked me through it.
That’s why, in this episode, I’m breaking it all down—practical ways to support your husband before, during, and after interviews in a way that’s healthy and helpful for both of you.
Whether you’re in the middle of an interviewing season or know it’s coming soon, I pray this episode gives you clarity, confidence, and peace as you walk through the process together!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Does it ever feel like being vulnerable is just too risky—like everyone’s expecting you to have it all together so you can’t let your guard down? Same, girl. Same. But here’s the thing: I've learned firsthand that vulnerability is the key to deeper relationships, a stronger ministry, and real spiritual growth.
In this episode, we’re talking about why it’s so hard to be vulnerable, but also why it’s so worth it.
We’ll unpack how God shows up in our weaknesses and how opening up can bring healing, connection, and growth.
If you’ve been feeling the pressure to hold it all together, let this be your reminder: you don’t have to. My goal is that this episode gives you the space to take a deep breath, let your walls down, and watch God work through your willingness to be vulnerable.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Let’s be real—ministry life is busy, and sometimes it feels like every conversation with your husband revolves around church stuff. But your marriage is about more than just serving together; it’s about actually enjoying life together. So how do you make sure your relationship stays strong beyond Sunday mornings and church events?
In this episode, we’re talking about simple, intentional ways to invest in your marriage outside of ministry. I’ll share some practical ideas to help you prioritize your relationship, reconnect in the middle of the chaos, and just have fun together again. Whether you’re feeling a little disconnected or just want to be more intentional about your marriage, this episode is here to encourage you and give you fresh ways to love your husband well!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave