The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast
Being a youth pastor’s wife is tough, isn’t it? You’re trying to balance ministry and family. You’re feeling the pressure to be perfect. You’re dealing with teenagers all the time. You’re trying to lead a small group. You’re struggling to find time to rest. You’re feeling overwhelmed, overlooked, and over-committed. Like I said, it’s a tough job. And on top of that, it can also feel lonely because being a youth pastor’s wife has a unique set of challenges compared to what other ministry wives might face. In this podcast, you will learn how to navigate those challenges that come with being a youth pastor’s wife and find the strength to keep showing up in your ministry and in your marriage. My goal is to help you find balance and fulfillment by giving you practical tools to invest in students, support your husband, and grow spiritually. If you’re ready to step into this incredible calling God has placed on your life, then this podcast is for you! Hey friend, I’m Kristen. I am a follower of Jesus, and of course, a youth pastor’s wife. I have learned firsthand that yes, serving students with your husband is super fun, but it can also be really challenging. Ministry is messy. Marriage has its ups and downs. And the expectations for a pastor’s wife aren’t exactly underwhelming. But I’m learning how to fully embrace this role God has given me as the youth pastor’s wife by discipling our students well, loving and supporting my husband in his role, and living by God’s standard for me rather than trying to be the “perfect pastor’s wife.” And I want to share all that I am learning with you so we can walk this journey together! That’s why I created this podcast! So if you want to learn how to live out your calling as you serve in student ministry, invest in your husband and your marriage, and say goodbye to people-pleasing and perfectionism, you’re in the right place! Welcome to The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast!
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Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
I had a very different plan for the episode I was going to release today, but I'm switching it up because this is something we need to talk about.
Life is just hard sometimes. Ministry can feel overwhelming, your marriage can feel stretched thin, and on top of it all, you still have regular life things to deal with—health struggles, financial stress, job changes, family issues. If you’re in a season where everything feels heavy, I want you to know: You are not alone.
In this episode, I’m sharing some personal struggles I've been dealing with lately, but more importantly, I’m offering biblical encouragement for when life feels like too much. We’ll talk about how to be honest with God in the hard moments, why remembering His faithfulness changes everything, and some practical steps you can take today to find peace and strength.
If you’re feeling weary, I hope this conversation reminds you that God sees you, He’s with you, and He will carry you through.
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Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Leading a small group is one of the most rewarding things you can do in ministry, but let’s be real—it can also be a little intimidating. Maybe you’re wondering how to get students to actually talk (instead of just staring at you in silence), or you’re trying to figure out how to balance fun with real discipleship. I get it—leading a small group can feel like a lot, but it doesn’t have to be complicated!
In this episode, I’m sharing 8 tips that will help you create a space where students feel safe, seen, and excited to grow in their faith. We’ll talk about things like setting expectations, asking better questions, and what to do when the conversation totally flops. Whether you’re brand new to leading or you’ve been at it for years, these practical tips will help you lead with confidence and actually enjoy the process.
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Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
When your husband is interviewing for a youth pastor position, it can feel like everything is up in the air. You want to be helpful, but you’re not always sure how. Should you help him prepare? How do you encourage him without adding pressure? And what do you do with all the emotions that come with waiting for an answer?
I’ve been there. When my husband was interviewing for a new ministry role a couple of years ago, I wanted to support him well, but I didn’t always know the best way to do that. Looking back, I wish someone had walked me through it.
That’s why, in this episode, I’m breaking it all down—practical ways to support your husband before, during, and after interviews in a way that’s healthy and helpful for both of you.
Whether you’re in the middle of an interviewing season or know it’s coming soon, I pray this episode gives you clarity, confidence, and peace as you walk through the process together!
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Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Does it ever feel like being vulnerable is just too risky—like everyone’s expecting you to have it all together so you can’t let your guard down? Same, girl. Same. But here’s the thing: I've learned firsthand that vulnerability is the key to deeper relationships, a stronger ministry, and real spiritual growth.
In this episode, we’re talking about why it’s so hard to be vulnerable, but also why it’s so worth it.
We’ll unpack how God shows up in our weaknesses and how opening up can bring healing, connection, and growth.
If you’ve been feeling the pressure to hold it all together, let this be your reminder: you don’t have to. My goal is that this episode gives you the space to take a deep breath, let your walls down, and watch God work through your willingness to be vulnerable.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Let’s be real—ministry life is busy, and sometimes it feels like every conversation with your husband revolves around church stuff. But your marriage is about more than just serving together; it’s about actually enjoying life together. So how do you make sure your relationship stays strong beyond Sunday mornings and church events?
In this episode, we’re talking about simple, intentional ways to invest in your marriage outside of ministry. I’ll share some practical ideas to help you prioritize your relationship, reconnect in the middle of the chaos, and just have fun together again. Whether you’re feeling a little disconnected or just want to be more intentional about your marriage, this episode is here to encourage you and give you fresh ways to love your husband well!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Jan 14, 2025
Tuesday Jan 14, 2025
Have you ever wondered what your purpose really is as a youth pastor’s wife? Maybe you feel like you’re just there to support your husband, but deep down, you’re asking, "Does Jesus have something specific for me too?"
In this episode, we’re diving into what it truly means to walk in the calling Jesus has for you as a youth pastor's wife. I’ll share my own journey of figuring this out—the questions I wrestled with, the struggles I faced, and the lessons God has taught me along the way. And I'll help you understand how to live out the unique calling God has for you and use the gifts He's given you to fulfill His purpose for your life!
No matter where you are on this journey, you are not just a supporting role—you have a purpose that’s meaningful, intentional, and God-designed!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Jan 07, 2025
Tuesday Jan 07, 2025
Does it ever feel like ministry is taking over your life, and your family is getting the leftovers? You’re not alone! Balancing family and ministry can be really hard, but it doesn’t have to feel impossible.
In this episode, I'm giving you three simple systems that can help you protect your time, prioritize your people, and still serve your church well. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, stretched too thin, or just looking for a little more peace in your schedule, these practical tips will help you create more balance—without guilt.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Dec 31, 2024
Tuesday Dec 31, 2024
Has being in ministry ever left you feeling lonely? Have you been hoping and praying for a solid support system but not known where to start or who to reach out to?
If that's you, friend, this episode is for you! I'm going to give you a step-by-step guide to building a strong, encouraging, life-changing support system to walk alongside you in your ministry, your marriage, and everything in between.
We’ll chat about who to include in your circle, how to find those people, and why setting boundaries is just as important as building connections. You don’t have to carry the weight of ministry by yourself, and you’re not meant to.
One of the best things I've ever done being in ministry is built a strong support system, and I want you to be able to say the same!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Follow me on Instagram - @kristenalexiscave
Tuesday Dec 24, 2024
Tuesday Dec 24, 2024
Let’s be real—connecting with teenagers can feel like trying to crack a secret code. But it doesn’t have to be that hard! In this episode of The Youth Pastor’s Wife Podcast, we’re keeping it super practical as I share 10 tips for building real, meaningful relationships with the students in your youth group.
Whether you’ve been doing youth ministry for years or you're still trying to figure out how to get students to talk to you, this episode has something for you. And if you commit to implementing these 10 tips, I can promise you'll start earn the trust of your students and build connections that last!
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!
Tuesday Dec 17, 2024
Tuesday Dec 17, 2024
When I stepped into the role of a youth pastor’s wife, I quickly realized there was so much I didn’t know—and let’s just say I learned a few things the hard way!
In this episode, I’m sharing five lessons I wish someone had told me before I started. From balancing a very abnormal schedule to handling other people's opinions (because oh boy, people will have them), this is the advice I wish I’d had in my back pocket from day one.
Whether you’re just stepping into this role or you’ve been doing it for years, I hope this episode feels like sitting down with a friend who gets it. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself. So join me as we talk about the 5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Became A Youth Pastor's Wife.
Don’t forget to hit subscribe and leave a rating and review if you found this episode helpful!
Join the Facebook group - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast Community - to connect with Kristen and other youth pastors' wives!
Have a question or topic suggestion for a future episode? Share it with me here!